Valentine’s Day: the day all girls without a boyfriend cry relentlessly, listen to the old Taylor Swift on repeat, and lock themselves in their rooms so they can eat as much chocolate as they want. I’m sure there’s a male version of this too, I’m just not sure what it is.
But why are we letting this get to us? Why spend an entire day in misery for artificial reasons? Valentine’s Day is about love, and — spoiler alert! — there’s much more to love than the kind between a boyfriend and girlfriend. In fact, I’ve narrowed down five other aspects you can focus on this Wednesday instead of just complaining about not having a date.
1. Celebrate by Loving God
God loved us before we loved Him, and He certainly loves us more than any boyfriend or girlfriend ever will. Use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to thank God for His incredible love and to tell Him how much you love Him too! You might not be able to send God chocolates, but you can spend extra time in prayer or Bible reading and thank Him for your blessings.
I love you, Lord, my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. -Psalms 18:1-2
If you pay attention to these laws and are careful to follow them, then the Lord your God will keep his covenant of love with you, as he swore to your ancestors. He will love you and bless you and increase your numbers. - Deuteronomy 7:12-13a
To love him with all your heart, with all your understanding and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself is more important than all burnt offerings and sacrifices. - Mark 12:33
2. Celebrate by Loving Your Family
Your family are the people closest to you who love you and put up with you even at your worst. Depending on how many siblings you have, how old you are, etc. there are different things you can do. For example:
- Making Valentine’s Day cards together for each other
- Getting one sheet of paper per person, and on each person’s sheet write everything you love about them
- Go out together and do something fun
- Watch a movie and laugh at the cheesy romance
While I’m blessed to be a part of a healthy family, I know not everyone has this in their life. Still, I strongly encourage you to find a way to bless someone in your family. Maybe it’s calling a relative you haven’t seen in a while or apologizing for an argument, or really anything you can do.
3. Celebrate by Loving Your Friends
Valentine’s Day is a great day to appreciate your friends — online and offline. If you can, do an activity together, like going out to dinner or staying and having a board game tournament (or whatever works for you). If that’s not possible, just send them a text saying how much you appreciate them, or maybe find a cheesy e-card and send it to them.
4. Celebrate by Loving Yourself
Okay, so maybe locking yourself in your room to eat chocolate and be overly dramatic is a little fun. Eat candy, set aside time to do something you enjoy, take a bubble bath, and improve your mood. If you know how to make yourself happy and can put yourself in a good mood, you’ll be a million times better at doing the same for others around you.
5. Celebrate by Loving Strangers
Can you say random acts of kindness? Whether or not they’re single, there can always a little more love in the world. Smile at people on the street, give random compliments, and maybe even do the greatest act love: sharing about Christ.
Here are a few ideas for RAKs to bless a stranger:
- Send Valentines to a nursing/retiring home
- Smile kindly at everyone (some people say that smiles from strangers have stopped them from committing suicide, so don’t feel silly)
- Pay for the person behind you
- Pray for the person behind you
- Compliment other girls
- Put quarters in the candy machines at Walmart/the mall/wherever you have them
There’s more to a young person’s life than dating, especially since you probably won’t end up marrying them. Appreciating the other things in life will make you happier and more content while you’re waiting for the right person.
What about you? How are you celebrating Valentine’s Day? Do you prefer chocolate bars or candy hearts? Do you make your own cards or buy them from the store? Share with me!